I had one of those unpleasant exchanges on a Dungeons & Dragons 5e group the other day, where you offer some resource that works for you and someone comes out of left field and goes on a racist tirade. It’s social media and I’m pretty good at ignore things like that personally, but the idea that folks new to the hobby might not realize the cheap tactics and toxic behavior behind replies like the one I got.
I’m not going to go too far into it but the core of the issue was someone posted asking if anyone actually uses hard and soft limits as discussed in the recently released Tasha’s Caldron of Everything. (Bravo to WotC for including this in an official book btw). My reply was to say that I do use this and have been for awhile, and how it’s been very effective for me. By way of example I included a bullet list of the Baseline Safety & Consent guidelines I created for this for my most recent campaign using Rime of the Frostmaiden. The guidelines are pretty straightforward:
- Horror, Mental/Physical Health – Describe as needed, part of module, not gratuitous or dwelled on.
- Harm to children – Not an element, implied or indirect.
- Mind Control – Not in RP, encounter based (i.e. confusion spell).
- Sexual Content – Implied, part of background, fade to black.
- Not part of the game: Homophobia, Abuse, Racism, Real-world religion, Sexism, gratuitous cruelty, etc.
- Local cultural conflicts or prejudices may exist.
- Racial essentialism is not a part of play, comes down to local culture as appropriate for The Forgotten Realms.
- Some themes used around drinking and poverty.
- Anyone can call for pause, rewind or skip ahead on uncomfortable material.
- Players will have a consent list they can fill out in session 0.
- Please bring up any topics we should be aware of.
The trigger for this person was the line “Racial essentialism is not a part of play, comes down to local culture as appropriate for The Forgotten Realms.” This was too much for them and it launched a reply thread at forty and growing ,of this person trying claim that racism is an inseparable part of any fantasy world and that the game must be unplayable if it does not include it. It’s not my way to generally engaged in fights on social media, particularly when the person is simply trying to score points and acting in bad faith while trying to hide behind a veneer of intellectualism. However I wanted to add a reply for the folks in the thread that might be new to D&D so they did not buy into this line of thinking.
Here is what I added:
That’s it, there’s no great insight in this post. This is one of those things that either you immediately get or you have a lot of personal work to do. Those of us who have been in the hobby for a long time however, should have some go to reasoning to help newer members from getting caught up in all of that.